I Need Help Approaching a Girl

Wolfie · 12-23-2015

There's this girl I really like and would love it if we can start out as friends. In my eyes, she's really pretty and attractive. However, the problem is I don't have any classes with her. I only know her because she was in one of my class back in middle school. She's always surrounded by friends so this makes it even more onerous to approach her.

I don't have her for any class, and she is always surrounded by friends. Is there any way to create a conversation between me and her without making it seems awkward? I want to approach her in a well-manner and natural way, however her friends are in the way...

PS: I'm a fairly decent looking guy. A little chubby, and weird. I also have problems with looking at people straight in their face...

Can someone provide me some good advice please?

Elk · 12-23-2015

So you basically like and would love her even though you dont really know her but only find her pretty and very attractive...

Mio · 12-23-2015

Boys... seriously for the looks?

Jent · 12-23-2015

Its not always about what's inside that matters, sometimes good looks matter.

Albie · 12-23-2015

I was in a situation like this. I didn't know a girl but I really wanted to, we ended up dating.

As weird as it sounds, find out where she usually hangs out and sit around that area. Odds are she and her friends will come and sit near you giving you a free buy into their conversation. Don't anticipate them though, don't look excited when she or her friendship group come. Just slideeee into the conversation.

Do this for a few days then ask for her number or snapchat or something. This will help you get to know each other better and let you become friends (if you're not awkward).
And then it won't be obnoxious for you to walk up to her and start talking as if you were friends.

That's what I did anyway. It worked lol

Sardon · 12-23-2015

To aproach a girl one must be slow and sneaky.
A wild girl can easily spot an aproaching male so you should hide using the nearest object such as a tree or a building.
Capturing one would not be that easy either but I reccomend you purchase a C8 type net its efficent.

iHot · 12-23-2015

Posted by Albie

I was in a situation like this. I didn't know a girl but I really wanted to, we ended up dating.

As weird as it sounds, find out where she usually hangs out and sit around that area. Odds are she and her friends will come and sit near you giving you a free buy into their conversation. Don't anticipate them though, don't look excited when she or her friendship group come. Just slideeee into the conversation.

Do this for a few days then ask for her number or snapchat or something. This will help you get to know each other better and let you become friends (if you're not awkward).
And then it won't be obnoxious for you to walk up to her and start talking as if you were friends.

That's what I did anyway. It worked lol

Confidence is more attractive than your actual looks so take his advice ^^and approach her with confidence and you'll make a good lasting impression

Weeno · 12-23-2015

be confident if you want to start out as friends at least act normal and get your voice straight. Think in your mind that if she would think you as a friend then you should act like an actual friend and not some dude who likes her

Albie · 12-23-2015

dont be 2 cocky tho

Pr0m4N V.14 · 12-23-2015

True Awnser:

DONT.

Distorted_P2P · 12-23-2015

Confidence is key.

MrSimons · 12-23-2015

Posted by Mio

Boys... seriously for the looks?

Get off it, he is asking how he can become friends with someone. So he is obviously interested in who she is too.

Latte · 12-23-2015

I would take Albie's advice, and I would try to make eye contact with her. Just keep your head up, you don't need to look straight into her eyes all the time. But don't put your head down when you talk. Personally, it's hard for me to understand someone if they aren't making some eye contact with me-- because they're talking somewhere else, or because I don't know what they're feeling. Making eye contact allows more comfort, transparency, and trust in the conversation.

That being said, it's okay if you're a little nervous. Just accept it, and allow the conversation to put you at ease.

Skyzer · 12-23-2015

You cannot force someone to like you.

Areo · 12-23-2015

Albie's idea was good. You can also try seeing if you are in any of the classes with her friends. If you can become friends with one of her friends she may "invite" you into the group. Or at least make it not awkward to join it yourself.

There sadly isn't a magic spell called "friendus-awayus!"

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Wolfie Terra Branford Join Date: Apr 2013 Location: Next to you Posts: 3,284	I Need Help Approaching a Girl There's this girl I really like and would love it if we can start out as friends. In my eyes, she's really pretty and attractive. However, the problem is I don't have any classes with her. I only know her because she was in one of my class back in middle school. She's always surrounded by friends so this makes it even more onerous to approach her. I don't have her for any class, and she is always surrounded by friends. Is there any way to create a conversation between me and her without making it seems awkward? I want to approach her in a well-manner and natural way, however her friends are in the way... PS: I'm a fairly decent looking guy. A little chubby, and weird. I also have problems with looking at people straight in their face... Can someone provide me some good advice please?

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Elk Banned Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Land of Music Posts: 1,232	So you basically like and would love her even though you dont really know her but only find her pretty and very attractive...

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Mio hi Join Date: Nov 2014 Posts: 736	Boys... seriously for the looks?

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Jent Ol' West Join Date: Jun 2015 Posts: 400	Its not always about what's inside that matters, sometimes good looks matter.

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Albie Registered User Join Date: Jun 2015 Location: Battle Arena Posts: 1,550	I was in a situation like this. I didn't know a girl but I really wanted to, we ended up dating. As weird as it sounds, find out where she usually hangs out and sit around that area. Odds are she and her friends will come and sit near you giving you a free buy into their conversation. Don't anticipate them though, don't look excited when she or her friendship group come. Just slideeee into the conversation. Do this for a few days then ask for her number or snapchat or something. This will help you get to know each other better and let you become friends (if you're not awkward). And then it won't be obnoxious for you to walk up to her and start talking as if you were friends. That's what I did anyway. It worked lol

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Sardon Deus Vult Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: Le Canada Posts: 3,811	To aproach a girl one must be slow and sneaky. A wild girl can easily spot an aproaching male so you should hide using the nearest object such as a tree or a building. Capturing one would not be that easy either but I reccomend you purchase a C8 type net its efficent.

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Weeno Guy who gets roasted Join Date: Jul 2015 Location: behind u Posts: 3,598	be confident if you want to start out as friends at least act normal and get your voice straight. Think in your mind that if she would think you as a friend then you should act like an actual friend and not some dude who likes her

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Pr0m4N V.14 Registered Smartass Join Date: Nov 2015 Location: The terms location and place in geography are used to identify a point or an area on the Earth. Posts: 1,422	True Awnser: DONT.

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Distorted_P2P Banned Join Date: May 2013 Posts: 1,555	Confidence is key.

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Latte what the heil Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: powerrangerville Posts: 1,351	I would take Albie's advice, and I would try to make eye contact with her. Just keep your head up, you don't need to look straight into her eyes all the time. But don't put your head down when you talk. Personally, it's hard for me to understand someone if they aren't making some eye contact with me-- because they're talking somewhere else, or because I don't know what they're feeling. Making eye contact allows more comfort, transparency, and trust in the conversation. That being said, it's okay if you're a little nervous. Just accept it, and allow the conversation to put you at ease.

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Skyzer Banned Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: New Hampshire, United States Posts: 3,135	You cannot force someone to like you.

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Areo Dr. Professor Moderator Join Date: Jun 2015 Location: I’m always located somewhere Posts: 1,205	Albie's idea was good. You can also try seeing if you are in any of the classes with her friends. If you can become friends with one of her friends she may "invite" you into the group. Or at least make it not awkward to join it yourself. There sadly isn't a magic spell called "friendus-awayus!"