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http://i3.kym-cdn.com/photos/images/newsfeed/000/466/043/7f4.png (Unsupported image host) The only option I see in this situation is to force yourself to move along. Things like this always happen and may or may not happen again in the future. Let's not forget, not all relationships run smooth. You're feeling pretty bad now, but sooner or later you'll find some other special person that'll replace the bad feels with better ones. Just chin up, and move along. |
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This seems like a great solution, and I think it seems like a really great idea, but I don't know how long I am going to feel this way. I've been like this for months (they started dating June 13). I am trying to move on from her, but I do not want to lose her as a friend either. When I try to move on without breaking off our friendship, I still have the huge emotional burden as I do currently. Thank you so much for your in-depth post. I think I may confront her, but I don't know how she will react. Perhaps I should wait a couple of months and reevaluate myself. Thanks for providing your point of view ! Thank you all for your suggestions. I am still open for more suggestions, and your opinions. |
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don't call it a comeback
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Sever all ties. Unless you actually, honestly enjoy talking to or being around her (moreso than other people you're close to), you're getting nothing out of this "relationship" and you're just making you and her uncomfortable with where you are. Have to let people go, if it's for the best of both of you, which it seems to be. Good luck.
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We've all make (probably not all but most) made these awkward mistakes. I wouldn't dwell on her, because it is easy to do that in this situation (i've been there). The best way to start a relationship sexual/romantic is to start the entire relationship that way. A really easy go to strategy with new girls is when they tell you "they've never kissed anybody". That is the perfect setup. You give them a sly smile and you tell them that you are going to teach her how to be a pro in one day. You then tell her she is coming home with you and your going to show her everything you know. If you act like you are shy and trying to invite her without hurting her feelings you will get labeled as weak and insecure. Girls like when a guy is straight up confident about making moves-and if you get rejected while making those moves, you just gotta say "whoops, sorry bout that, your so cute it was hard to resist. Don't take it personally, I have a tendency to wanna kiss cute girls". I went a little off topic but the best way to get confident in a relationship is to build it from the start as a physical relationship along with the romantics and feelings. It will never be hard to make a move once you guys have hooked up |
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Fysez, I have some extra information regarding the relationship problem. When we broke up, she initially told me that something happened and she can only find love in her family at the current time. I felt like I needed to know what happened, so I asked her best friend. He was reluctant at first, but then he said that she was selfish, and told me that she came out pansexual. It was until later that I figured out this was not the true cause of the relationship (pansexuals like men and women, and I'm a guy, so that's not a real reason). She figured out her best friend told me, and of course got a bit angry with him and I. That's why he ended his friendship with her. Later on, her and I got closer as friends and soon became best friends. It is then when she told me that she thought I didn't love her (because of my reluctancy to hug or kiss). I was happy with this new information. But it was still bugging me. Her ex-best friend contacted me on his cell phone and told me this was not the case, and the breakup was because she was not having fun. I honestly don't know how to feel as her third wheel when she broke up because she didn't have fun, while expecting me to be happy as a wingman. Talon, I was thinking this, but I don't want to get rid of a really good friend. I will wait a few months and reevaluate my feelings for her. Kendama, I'm not looking for another relationship with her, but I'll (maybe) take your advise for other women I fall for. I'm looking to go slowly in a relationship, so maybe this is not ideal. Thanks, though. |
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She prefers men that make her have fun? Sounds to me she's the one who isn't going to have too many good relationships in the future... |
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finding a gf advice: find a girl that is demi-romantic and demi-sexual. Its ok if theres no kissing, smexing, and affection, most marriages end up like that by the 10th year. feelings towards the current situation: if you dont want to get back together and youre having weird feelings i would say is your teenage man ego taking a hit. |
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