Another "relationship" advice thread

Fysez · 02-19-2015

Hello,

This is a strange topic for me to grasp for myself.
Being someone who often helps others on relationship advice, it seems I'm immune to even thinking of advice I could personally use.

A few details:
In real life, I'm very social and personal about the "gaming" side of me.
Being a female programmer and gamer growing up in the technology era of Earth, I realize that typically females who play games are "hot" and to others seem "weird" or "not actually a gamer (i.e g4m3r gurll)". Being a neurological problem, this is quite confusing and therefore I diminish the geeky side of me from my personal side. I act completely different online than in person. Reason I bring this up, is that I'm highly attracted to men who play games -- which is odd, yet true.

Straight to the point:
We had a new student transfer credits and start attending the university I go to. He seemed pretty shy for being a college student (in my opinion) when I saw him in one of my core classes. So being the role model figure I like to believe I am, I decided to sit by him and start a chat. For days, I would always ask how he is and what he likes to do (small talk?).
Seeing how he was newer to this whole thing and didn't have any real friends, I decided to invite him, along with a ton of my friends, to a movie.
We all had a blast talking and laughing. He seemed to fit in well.
We started texting eachother, and I brought up how I did something sneaky the other day. He responded "Achievement Unlocked!"
Relating this to some kind of gaming system, probably an XBox or something, this (straight to it) kind of turned me on.

Again, keeping my inner gamer girl to myself, I didn't mention anything about it specifically. So I don't want to come right out and say "this means we're made for eachother. LOVE ME!" but that's pretty much what I'm thinking.

Now that you read my life biography, what suggestions do some of you have for me rather than being all "Do you play games? Date me."

Thanks!

Distorted · 02-19-2015

I understand where you're coming from, I don't tell anyone I know about Graal. They'd think I'm really odd aha.

Tyler · 02-19-2015

I hate those stereotypes about girls and video games. It's because they exist that it's harder to find girls that are into gaming and whatnot. Maybe you could just wear a shirt relative to a game series and see if he says anything about it. That way if you don't want to bring up the gaming topic itself you could just casually reference it with clothing.

Colin · 02-19-2015

Try bringing up game-related phrases/remarks while texting every now and then, similar to how he said "Achievement Unlocked".

If he catches on to them that means he is pretty good with his games and will know you are too, if he doesn't catch them then no harm done since he won't know it is game related.

Posted by Distorted

I understand where you're coming from, I don't tell anyone I know about Graal. They'd think I'm really odd aha.

I spent my spare today on Graal showing my in real life friends what it was about they didn't really enjoy all too much and basically bashed on me for still playing it even after all these years (although, at the time I was dressed up as a female jokingly hooking up with noobies so that probably gave a bad image)

lord greg · 02-20-2015

Posted by Colin

Try bringing up game-related phrases/remarks while texting every now and then, similar to how he said "Achievement Unlocked".

If he catches on to them that means he is pretty good with his games and will know you are too, if he doesn't catch them then no harm done since he won't know it is game related.

I spent my spare today on Graal showing my in real life friends what it was about they didn't really enjoy all too much and basically bashed on me for still playing it even after all these years (although, at the time I was dressed up as a female jokingly hooking up with noobies so that probably gave a bad image)

I think this is a good idea, try to bring up game references subtly or bring gaming into conversations and see where it takes you. It could be possible that he is shy about gaming as well.

5hift · 02-20-2015

Step 1: Play Smash Bros together.

Step 2: Never leave each other EVER.

Sardon · 02-20-2015

All ill say is
I Hate relationshîts
Good luck

Sir · 02-20-2015

YOU GUYS ARE GONNA BE THE CUTEST COUPLE EVER

Tyler · 02-20-2015

Posted by 5hift

Step 1: Play Smash Bros together.

Step 2: Never leave each other EVER.

Forgot my advice. This.... This is key to every relationship's happiness.

Fysez · 02-20-2015

Thanks for the help everyone.

The suggestion about referencing games is that.. I don't know what he plays. Even if I did, I have no idea HOW I could casually fit in a reference to that game.

Posted by 5hift

Step 1: Play Smash Bros together.

Step 2: Never leave each other EVER.

Great thing I have Smash Bros WiiU!!!

GOAT · 02-20-2015

Posted by Fysez

Thanks for the help everyone.

The suggestion about referencing games is that.. I don't know what he plays. Even if I did, I have no idea HOW I could casually fit in a reference to that game.

Great thing I have Smash Bros WiiU!!!

2 words STALK HIM

MrSimons · 02-20-2015

Posted by 5hift

Step 1: Play Smash Bros together.

Step 2: Never leave each other EVER.

Thats how you end up murdering someone.

optimuswhat · 02-20-2015

Posted by 5hift

Step 1: Play Smash Bros together.

Step 2: Never leave each other EVER.

I think this will work.

Cookie Xanadu · 02-20-2015

Posted by Fysez

Thanks for the help everyone.

The suggestion about referencing games is that.. I don't know what he plays. Even if I did, I have no idea HOW I could casually fit in a reference to that game.

Great thing I have Smash Bros WiiU!!!

Do mainstream games like TF2 and duch. Maybe say poot instead of put, or when something odd happens, mention a spy.

Or CoD

Latte · 02-20-2015

This is an awesome opportunity to embrace the gamer within! It's okay to be a nerd about it! Being a "gamer girl" as well, I understand totally what you mean-- but the term "gamer girl" makes it sound so... girly and detached from just gaming itself. Gaming is a hobby, and, for me, gaming is just part of who I am. I've gamed since I was 5, and grew up with it-- like a lot of people have.

So if its part of you, go with it. Be yourself around this guy; ask to play games together so you can bond more, and get to know him. Plus, he'll get to know you. And when life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade. MAKE LIFE TAKE THE LEMONS BACK.

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Fysez Banned Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Omaha, NE Posts: 610	Another "relationship" advice thread Hello, This is a strange topic for me to grasp for myself. Being someone who often helps others on relationship advice, it seems I'm immune to even thinking of advice I could personally use. A few details: In real life, I'm very social and personal about the "gaming" side of me. Being a female programmer and gamer growing up in the technology era of Earth, I realize that typically females who play games are "hot" and to others seem "weird" or "not actually a gamer (i.e g4m3r gurll)". Being a neurological problem, this is quite confusing and therefore I diminish the geeky side of me from my personal side. I act completely different online than in person. Reason I bring this up, is that I'm highly attracted to men who play games -- which is odd, yet true. Straight to the point: We had a new student transfer credits and start attending the university I go to. He seemed pretty shy for being a college student (in my opinion) when I saw him in one of my core classes. So being the role model figure I like to believe I am, I decided to sit by him and start a chat. For days, I would always ask how he is and what he likes to do (small talk?). Seeing how he was newer to this whole thing and didn't have any real friends, I decided to invite him, along with a ton of my friends, to a movie. We all had a blast talking and laughing. He seemed to fit in well. We started texting eachother, and I brought up how I did something sneaky the other day. He responded "Achievement Unlocked!" Relating this to some kind of gaming system, probably an XBox or something, this (straight to it) kind of turned me on. Again, keeping my inner gamer girl to myself, I didn't mention anything about it specifically. So I don't want to come right out and say "this means we're made for eachother. LOVE ME!" but that's pretty much what I'm thinking. Now that you read my life biography, what suggestions do some of you have for me rather than being all "Do you play games? Date me." Thanks!

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Distorted Banned Join Date: May 2014 Location: The Grotto Posts: 1,345	I understand where you're coming from, I don't tell anyone I know about Graal. They'd think I'm really odd aha.

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Tyler Dark Desert Fox Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: United States, Ohio Posts: 5,720	I hate those stereotypes about girls and video games. It's because they exist that it's harder to find girls that are into gaming and whatnot. Maybe you could just wear a shirt relative to a game series and see if he says anything about it. That way if you don't want to bring up the gaming topic itself you could just casually reference it with clothing.

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5hift ✔️TURBO✔️VERIFIED✔️ Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: Larunda Relay Posts: 6,481	Step 1: Play Smash Bros together. Step 2: Never leave each other EVER.

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Sardon Deus Vult Join Date: Oct 2014 Location: Le Canada Posts: 3,811	All ill say is I Hate relationshîts Good luck

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Sir Elder ✔️ Join Date: Oct 2012 Posts: 2,286	YOU GUYS ARE GONNA BE THE CUTEST COUPLE EVER

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Latte what the heil Join Date: Nov 2011 Location: powerrangerville Posts: 1,351	This is an awesome opportunity to embrace the gamer within! It's okay to be a nerd about it! Being a "gamer girl" as well, I understand totally what you mean-- but the term "gamer girl" makes it sound so... girly and detached from just gaming itself. Gaming is a hobby, and, for me, gaming is just part of who I am. I've gamed since I was 5, and grew up with it-- like a lot of people have. So if its part of you, go with it. Be yourself around this guy; ask to play games together so you can bond more, and get to know him. Plus, he'll get to know you. And when life gives you lemons, don't make lemonade. MAKE LIFE TAKE THE LEMONS BACK.