Posted by Conquest

This is what I'm saying; really, it's kind of true. I mean, I think a lot of friendships get formed with people we have crushes on but then we become friends anyway. The idea is to treat people, even those we are attracted to, as friends regardless of our attraction or reason for meeting. In the end, if your attraction is reciprocated it will sort of develop on its own I think.

I seriously get super weirded out by people who are forthcoming if we barely know each other. It is one thing to be attracted to me, but to "like me"? Whatever that means. You don't even know me.

If we do know each other quite well (which takes a lot of time), then I feel disturbed by the whole high school antics of "omg omg omg I have a cruusssh!!!!" Like, I'm not somebody's property.

I also get weirded out by people who sneak around and secretly violate my boundaries without ever been given permission to do so, then when confronted deny it or act like I'm crazy. They tend to keep pushing, as well.

Be respectful; get to know her; if something develops, good. This culture of slutty sexual conquest is a complete lie; the idea of being the pushiest most aggressive "confident guy", used up, getting with this person, that person, high fives from the "bros". These kinds of people may vibrate with the porn industry, but in the end unless they fix it—typically wind up some version of a douchebag incapable of deeper human reasoning. Take the pressure off yourself; it isn't real. There's no rush or race to find happiness; you'll know when the time comes—but it won't be some cheap Hollywood thrill where it's "love at first sight so let's bang".