Someone who is mean enough to tell you that you're an autistic ****** probably does not care about marginalized groups, that's the concept I'd like you to grasp.

It's like when Tumblr feminists go into their rants about how Suzy didn't deserve to be raped just because she was wearing revealing clothing. Shocking revelation! The problem is that you're trying to be rational and reasonable with a rapist. They don't give a damn. They're going to do what they do just because that's who they are.

Telling people not to use _____ as an insult triggers the Streisand effect, because you're basically telling them which insults are the best and most effective ones.