Friendship confusion.
 

Alright,
Recently, my clique has split into two seperate cliques (although we still sit together as one). The one I am in contains three significant people who I am having troubles with. They're called Grace, Scarlet and Maddy.
I'm in a pastoral class (classes for English, history, science, etc. ) with Grace, and in the same German class as Scarlet. We're all in the same maths class.

So Grace has always been an outgoing and confident person. She has a gene (?) or something similar that causes her to not store much fat, so she doesn't have any body issues. She's the one I have the most problems with - and I consider her my BFF. We aren't the popular group nor the 'weird' group yet she talks to the populars in the class normally (I know they're people too but be realistic). I suppose you could say she wants to be one.
In PE (swimming unit) today, Grace didn't talk to me at all and swam with a girl called Lily. As most of my clique (big one) are in other classes, I'm almost always on my own if she isn't with me. I'm not the most extroverted person so I have trouble making new friends. She always hangs out with other people and practically never with me. To top it off, when there was clearly enough space in the shower she let Lily in to share but not me (and this was when they brought their own shampoo and conditioner so they didn't use mine); and at the beginning of the lesson she didn't save a spot for me near the bag hooks in the changing room (a good place to change); and didn't wait for me at the end!

Scarlet moved from her old 'more popular' clique to us, and I also have problems with her as well. This week Grace and her haven't been letting me walk up the stairs because I'm 'unfit'. They're not calling me fat, and I'm not, just I have low levels of endurance and strength. She also bought Grace a chocolate but not one for me because I didn't give her one yesterday, even though Grace has never bought anyone anything. And then she goes into saying I won't get a boyfriend because I'm taller than most in my brother school's grade.

Maddy has done nothing wrong, and even said "guys stop being mean" (with a serious tone) while Grace and Scarlet weren't giving me any chocolate (as they were teasing me about it. Although sometimes we have sessions on Kik where we bitch about other people in our grade. I hate this, because I feel as if I don't bitch about others with her she'll ditch me.
I might also add that in Assembly I was given a Distinction in the ICAS science competition, which Grace also entered in but didn't get one, and nobody congratulated me personally and they forgot about it.

I am confused as to what I should do; if I distance myself from them I would become a loner, and I don't exactly appreciate what they do.

Note: it's not that they are never nice to me.

You may not be extroverted, but I'd think twice about calling her your BFF lol. Either speak to her and ask whats the matter, have you done something wrong etc. but if my BFF weren't giving me chocolate bars anymore I would have moved on!!

Honestly though, you probably have more friends than you think outside your cliche. Tell them how you feel and if they're not taking it seriously/changing you're better off moving on.

So this Grace, are you saying she has no booty.

Idk about girl/boy groups but I'm just assuming there kinda similar ( wherever you are from) but if you don't like them,avoid them. If you have to act with them,, I guess just do as minimum as possible. If THEY don't like YOU, and want to avoid you and also make your life hard, just go up and talk about it. By this point I'm already pissed, but I'm trying to go slow. If all else fails, fight.

actually you might not want to get advice from me cause I've been in in school suspension over 20 times. But you get the point.

If your BFF isn't paying attention to you, I'd suggest you move on from her. There are plenty of people willing to pour time into an actual friendship. If your friend isn't there for you, it's time that you leave.

Scarlet and Grace sound like heathens. Kill those infidel traitors and bury their bodies in their respective backyards.

Or to really confuse people bury them in each others backyards.

Plat, if this is really how you say it is, then I'd suggest trying to find new friends, because in these situations, you'll end up being hurt a lot more, even if they are your friends, it's about what makes you happy, not them.

Really, the solution to all these "friend" problems are to just move on and make new ones.

Not saying friends are expendable, it's just that s*** happens.

So don't be surprised (unless you're actually a horrible person which I'm sure you're not) since this sort of thing could happen to ANYONE.

Its simple, why would you want to be friends with someone that treats you like crap. Also, as you're growing up friends can just simply lose common interest and start parting ways. There's no point in making yourself stress out.

I've been where you're at. I went to an all-girls school, and went through all sorts of ridiculous angsty BS teenager mind games. So, here's my advice, and it's not going to sound like a comfortable option for you; but it is what I've learned after dealing with these things.

NEVER GO ALONG WITH THE BULL****. I know they're not horrible people. But honestly, gossiping and talking down about other girls just makes a person look stupid. You're not comfortable saying **** about other girls-- don't do it. REFUSE to do it. And tell them why. You know why people talk down on others? Dominance. They want to have "dominance" over that person, for just a moment, in private.

If you tell, or even yell at them, they will not ditch you. If you tell them how crappy gossiping makes them look, to their faces, they'll feel momentarily defeated. And they won't let you go because of that, because you've posed a new challenge to them. You're suddenly a more individual thinker, and that provokes interest.

As for your BFF that often ditches you-- that's probably because she feels like she has total power over you. She might even think that you need her. Well, that's wrong. Next time, don't even go looking for her. Do your own thing; and get used to doing your own thing, on your own. She'll be confused, and realize she's not needed anymore. That's when she starts looking for you.

As for the chocolate? Totally elementary. That would get to me too, since I was a very giving friend. But it's whatever-- just don't freely give things to her anymore, if it bothers her so much.

A few of my friends were a lot like you described. I got sick of it. After a lot more issues with my "clique", during my junior/senior year, I pretty much isolated myself. I'd still sit with them, but I was almost never interested. And since my class was only 50 people, I couldn't really go and make new friends; but yeah. That's my high school experience. But doesn't have to be yours.

Pretty much what Latte said. She hit the nail on the head. Your dependency on them has turned your active and valued friendship into a passive and clingy burden. Perhaps its not as harsh of a transformation as I've described but you need to understand that your friends don't feel that you are contributing to the group. And by contributing, I don't mean buying chocolates for them or following them or making jokes with them. You are NOT contributing to the mental interest of the group. Meaning; You are not interesting/attracting their attention.

Solution? What Latte has said. I suggest you take this time to personally develop your own interests. Spend time alone with yourself, find interests and hobbies, study and make yourself better......discover yourself independently. That alone will benefit you more than this passive/uncontributing friendship and will also actually get their interest/attention. In their eyes, as you are moving forward and discovering your talents, their curiosity and interest in you will also grow. They will come to value your active part in their friendship again solely out of your independent growth away from them.

I'm not good with girls actually I'm really, really bad, but you should just ditch those friends cause they obviously are trying to make your life hard. Is it just that you can't get away from them or are you trying to act normal when the Harrass you?

Gossip is pretty shallow; get new friends.