Coming Out Today
 

Coming out to my parents and family today.
I'm a ***** so I'm gunna do it over Facebook.
Wish me luck, I'm 85% sure I'm gunna get disowned

2016 dude

if anyone still cares at this point then it's 100% their problem

I told my 3 brothers last year.
My little brother was like "I'm proud of you for having the courage to tell us!"
My older brother was like "That doesn't make me happy, but it's your life"
And my oldest brother still hasn't talked to me since that day

I come from a highly judgemental family. I remember one of the first questions my dad asked me after I moved to college: "are there ever any ****sucking f**s that hit on you?" (actual quote)

Oh ****.

Well, keep us posted.

Good luck.

There is not much your parents can do anyways, it is your life. Good Luck!

Yeah that's what scares me. I still want them to be in my life.
I have a full time job and live on my own 3hrs away from them, so it really isn't a big deal if they stop supporting me, just that I don't want to be one of those people who lose their family for something as stupid as not having sexual feelings for women

Dude good luck! I remember coming out was scary as ****, but once it's over you feel amazing! :)

I hope they support you, it's terrifying coming out to your parents, especially if they're religious or something like that. Keep your head held high, and if they don't accept you, they don't deserve you as an amazing son.

you can live in my bed in the worst case!

Good luck! Hopefully they will understand.

Good luck man

Good luck man, I hope that all goes well.

I really hope it all works out for you.

I thought you were a lesbian

Thanks for the support guys.
I've been listening to http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UrIvIEa2K48&sns=em all day just bawling my eyes out, but whatever. Kms

Good luck <3

Best of luck!

I first thought this thread is about Graal 3D coming out(not checking sections) and I wanted to leave "coming out of tha closet, not the game eh??" to troll a bit. No offener. But turns out I was indeed!

Goodluck, hope you won't need it.

Goodluck!

I mean I'm definitely getting a lot of positive feedback and acceptance
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Unfortunately that acceptance isn't from my mom.
She caed me crying and making it about her saying how I made her look like a terrible mother by announcing it publicly.
She also talked to me about how she wanted grandkids, like adoption isn't an option.

All I'm saying is, I now understand why gay suicide rates are so high.

u look cute

**** man. I'm really sorry this happened. If you ever need anyone to talk to, I'm here for you. Even though we've never met, I feel like we have a lot in common.

I've never gone through anything like that, so it's much easier to talk about it than it is to actually go through it, but I suggest telling your mom and your brother that they aren't normal either, and just because you differ from them in one way, doesn't mean it's wrong, because they're also different from most people in some way. Especially if you/they are religious (Christian), I would tell them that God says all sin is equal, and they shouldn't treat you being gay like something terrible, just because they don't understand it. I knlw they're your family, but anyone willing to hurt their child just because they're different isn't someone you should let affect you deeply. Parents should have unconditional love for their children, and if they don't, then there is a problem with them, not you.

i came out to my mom in 2006 via msn where i announced suicide and she was worried and asking whats up and kept bugging me being frustrated

in the end i told her in tears and she was like "its not that bad, its probably just a phase" is what she thought, until she heard me and my exboyfriend moaning in my room.

i was really mad at her for thinking that it would just be a phase, my dad never thought of it as bad, since he traveled around the world meeting new people, and my granny was really cool, she asked about details and how its different lol


i hope you have someone that gives you strength in these times

Man I'm sorry about your mom, but I am glad you came out and can finally be who you are freely without having to hold back anything. I wish we didn't live in a world where 'coming out' was a thing. It should just be like how Gender is, male or female. No big deal. But no, some people have to think that being 'gay' is bad.

Hope that all goes well.

Goddamn that's rough.

Hopefully your mother realizes that it isn't about image and she should be proud that she raised such a talented son.

Seriously, you've got a lot going for you and just because your mom is a little tilted at who you really are, you shouldn't give yourself up.

Just let your mom cool down and deal with the initial shock, I think she has the right to be upset at first.

Look at it from her point of view, her own child kept a pretty big secret from her and when he finally came out he did it publicly without talking to her first, as a parent the last thing you want is your child to not feel like they can talk to you personally about stuff like this and it can easily upset parents when that's the case.

As for things like grandkids, most parents hope for that and other things (especially because you waited so long to come out) so when they are told most of it won't happen it's obviously going to cause shock and take a while to sink in.

I'm not saying it's okay for her to act like this, but there is probably a lot of emotions running through her head so you should just wait for it to all pass and she's in her right mind, I would be pretty upset if my child took this long to tell me something like this too.

i wonder why she got upset :rolleyes: :rolleyes: :rolleyes:

Good luck man, my friend is literally scared ****less of telling his parents because they're Hispanic and you know how they handle their biz.

woah tmi

@OP: I'm so sorry that happened! Just give her some time and I'm sure she'll come through.

I'm super lucky/greatful that I have parents that would support me no matter what I do and I offer my deepest condolences to anyone who doesn't and cannot even imagine that.

Your parents don't have to shape your life though, it's your life.

why did you put it on fb? Like Crono said its 2016 no offence but I doubt not as many people would care as you think

But more power to u anyway man

You kinda look like some 6-7 year old I used to babysit...
o-o

Best of luck with everything man, It's sad that your Mum reacted like that but she'll come around.

Hot ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

From Elk alone, the audio is a masterpiece.

My parents thought I was gay without me telling them. And I'm not even gay. Crazy!

8=D

This is my happy face!

Sounds like a Donald Trump tweet.

http://www.graalians.com/forums/atta...1&d=1466213383

Nice meme.

Hey that's cheating, Dolan Drumpf is a meme machine.

No meme machines allowed in the meme-off only good self-made memes.

Like Dat Boi.

@OP A friend of mine all through high-school was legally disowned by her family because she told them she was pansexual when she was 20, and was dedicated to her current polygamy family (and still is in the same one this day!).

It really devastated her in a way that's difficult to describe with just text. She had looked for her parents approval her whole life, since her sisters excelled so greatly around her while, much like me, she was always stuck to a computer for what she wanted to get in to.

It took her a few years, and quite the handful of sobbing phonecalls. But she's a very strong woman now, and is happy with what had happened regardless of the hardships she had to endure.


TL;DR- You'll make it through, and you'll feel more like yourself in the end because of it. ..At least, a friend of mine did.

preface: I really hope this doesn't come off offensively.

Yea, totally not trashing your decision OP but this is definitely a part of the reason your mom is so upset. I understand that it's not something easy to tell her in person. But honestly, you can't write this off as some small quirk, being homosexual makes for a huge change in lifestyle (especially to people your mom's age). So its incredibly shocking to her to find out from Facebook that her son is gay.

If you haven't already, it may do you good to apologize to her. Obviously not for being gay, but for not telling her before you posted it on Facebook. Just my humble advice.

Anyway good on you for being confident about who you are.

LATEST IN FYSEZ DRAMA
When I moved to college last year, my sister took my brothers and I to dinner where, long story short, the next day texted us her and her roommate of 4yrs were actually lesbians together.
That's when I also came out to my brothers, since my sister did.

Turns out my brother, whom I legitimately hate (I strive to be nothing like him because he's a douchebag af), told my mom the day after.
So she's already known I was gay since like October last year I guess.

Now my mom's mad at my sister because my mom is blaming her for "pushing me to come out on Facebook" (which isn't true at all, I didn't speak to my sister) and now my sister is angry with my brother because he outed her to my parents like he apparently did to me.

This whole thing is a huge mess, and I felt typing this out would relieve me a little bit like talking about how it's making me feel.
I'm a ****up, I quit life

Lesbians are hotter than gays

Agreed. They're a pretty cute couple
http://i.imgur.com/2Z1Xl2g.jpg

wonder what the statistics are of having 2 kids in the family that are lesbian/gay (serious)

I mean, I have a LOT of siblings, and 1 of them came out to us last year, so the chances of that happening with a smaller family must be quite slim

I'm just so sorry this is happening, Fysez. Is there anything us graalians can do to help you feel better?



Well, me and my one whole sibling are both LGBT, not exactly gay/lesbian, but we both have different genders than our born one. I'm pansexual, while she's probably asexual and aromantic.
So I guess it's possible to have two LGBT kids in a smaller family?

Sounds like you need a family meeting with everyone there.

What is the difference between bisexual and pansexual? Is bisexual strictly cismales and females whereas pan isn't restricted at all?

AFAIK Pansexual is attraction to all genders, whereas bisexual is only with males and females (can be transgender, so not purely cis.)