my friend and his girl problems
 

Aight, so I have this friend. Hes been dating a girl on and off for the past 9 months. Hes 15. But every time, a month after they get back together, she says she likes someone else, they break up and get together like a month later. Its happened 4 times already. He really likes her, shes a childhood friend, he just doesn't know what to do, he always comes to me in tears. Its the 5th time no, he just came to me. Should he stay with this bish? I say no, but he really loves her. i have no idea what to tell him. Could someone experienced with girls help? Thanks

>experience with girls
>this forum
Ha.

I think it's best for him to talk to her about it. Plus, they're 15, they are immature as far as relationships are going to go.

you won’t find anyone that fits that description on this site besides me of course and my advice is to harsh for this site

crap claw beat me to it

dump. her.

Rofl <3

Well, if she "likes someone else" shouldn't your friend know that if they date again she's going to like him and the other dude.

tats or gtfo

Since when do people this age know what love is? In my opinion, anyone in "love" at that age is just following a trend set by peers/previous generations or is used to gain popularity... Just sayin'.
Why would someone who still likes to climb trees want to have a serious relationship and want to settle down with their lover? I mean really, they still market nappies in supermarkets for that 15 year old age group - no joke. It says a lot really.

Not being offensive to anyone who feels they are, I just don't believe in it and find it difficult to comprehend. For those that disagree, please explain... (Rant over)

But yeah, back on topic, he should probably just forget about her if this just keeps happening because it really seems like it's not working out.

Your "friend"
Right...lol

Anyways, I have some experience with girls. I as a male, can't tell you the mysterious ways of their thinking or reasoning. But I am 19 years old and have been in a couple few relationships in my day.

I've never been in a relationship with a childhood friend (all mine are males) but maybe he really does think he loves this girl due to the bond they have built over their years growing up together.
I can 100% guarantee the girl doesn't love him though. She keeps leaving him for other guys and comes crawling back to him (your friend)
My advice is tell your friend to man up and stop being a little bitch. He sounds beta as ****. He's going to let this girl keep dumping him for other guys and STILL take her back every time? She's probably a ***** and having sex with these other guys. And to top it off he comes CRYING to you?
This friend of yours needs to grow some balls and man up.
Tell him to stop putting up with her **** and that he doesn't really love her.

Since when do you decide for him if he really loves her or not....? :p

And yeaaah, that girl does sound like she's not ready for a relationship- if she keeps breaking up with him I suggest you tell him he has a serious talk with her what this all is about, and if this doesn't work for him then he should let her go, better do that than that she leaves him every month ;p.

Haha thought the same thing xD

BOON he said people with experience
Only because someone is in love at that age doesn’t mean they’re thinking of “settling down” with someone for the rest of their lives. All that means is they’re in love at that moment. Especially when its the famous first love. That’s why they call it teenage love. You will understand when you get a gf dude.

Unfortunately, your friend is probably the 'back-up boyfriend'. She probably doesn't actually like him, but feels as though she always needs to be in a relationship, so when a relationship is over that she actually liked, she goes back with him just to have someone. I knew one girl like this, and her situation got pretty bad.. There's not a lot of hope for people like this; the best thing is to make the choice to respect yourself, and leave her. She has to learn on her own.

No time for it. Education eats up all my spare time. :L

Plus, why would you love someone if you don't want to spend the rest of your life with them? It's lies then...

Crap why I didn’t think of that. Get an education, get rich, and let my money get me a super model.
Lol cause you can’t control what your heart wants 0o the heart wants what it wants you have no control over it

The heart is a lump of muscle that pumps blood. Yes, I can really forsee this lump of meat longing for a loving relationship.

You're being a bit too literal but technically it's your brain that is controlling your emotions and your heart.

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again expecting different results.

This is an age where people are blinded between love and lust. He has to come to a conclusion to why he loves her and the fact that she left him 5 times should have been enough to make him leave her. You're friend sounds really desperate and since they were childhood friends, that should have remained.

It’s a muscle? What are you going to tell me next that the heart works as a pump. You going to tell me the heart receives deoxygenated blood from the body and pumps it to the lungs to get oxygen. Dam lies

Can you foresee a lump of whatever the brain is made of longing for a loving relationship.

The answer to your question is simple you can’t control all of your emotions. Here is an example so you can understand what I’m saying. If someone real close to you died would you be able to control yourself to be happy.

I'm a teach you something you won’t learn at your fancy school. Sometimes in life you’re going to be wrong and it’s just better to be the bigger man and admit that you’re wrong instead of arguing for no reason.

I don’t think he is that dumb to actually think I thought the heart controlled your emotions. He just didn’t have anything else to say. He was just looking for a way out.

Thanks for explaining it, but I really don't care about your opinion when you start insulting me. You definitely have to be pretty close to that age category for you to launch such a counter-argument, so your statement about being the bigger man is invalid; you should really look at yourself in the same perspective.

Plus, I'm not going to take life advice from children, no offense intended, but you can probably see my point whether you like it or not.

inb4 "99 problems"

the responses to this thread are kinda cute and kinda rude and kinda egotistical and kinda gay and kinda sweet and you're all kinda ****sticks

ot for op: you should know what to tell your friend judging by the responses here.

I think true love starts at around ~18. At the younger age it's just an attraction to this person and not really "love".

Well they should have stayed friends. Getting into a relationship with a childhood friend at age 15 will only ruin it because 15 won't usually be the age for a long term relationship and he'll only lose her. Also that girl's a bitch and the fact that he's trying to get back after so many failures shows how much he's a betafag but he should just let go, trust me.

Leave your friend

Who are you to say when "true love" begins... That's not something age-bound, that's just something that ypu have to be lucky with..

I think most people, especially young since they're new to these feelings, mistake a crush for love. A crush is when you think about that person, you're interested in them, they have qualities you admire. Love is when its much more intense; you understand the other person like you understand yourself, yet both people feel like they can learn from each other. They're willing to build something together, whether its themselves, or a family. Anyone at any age can experience this; its just a matter of luck, fate, coincidence, or however you choose to believe in the occurance of small wonders.

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Oh, and this *cough* "friend" *cough* should dump her.

Also, that's not necessarily true. I personally know a couple that started "dating" when they were 12. They are now both over 50 years old.

Friend sounds like he loves what they had/have and doesnt want it to go away, rather then the girl herself.

He needs to man up, the fact she has cheated over and over shows she ain't changing.

Godoco if this is actually you and it's most probable.
Having a long relationship at the age of 12 is mostly gonna fail, man.

I have to disagree with you on that one. I just think you're plain wrong. That sounds harsh.

Really people? I'm 15 and I'm pretty mature. Usually, where I live, people grow out of they're immaturity at 14. By 15 and a half, you're not following a 'trend' at all. Unless you're one of those assholes that does it for, well, you know what I mean.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but should I still really be climbing trees and stuff?

Hell yeah, you should. Climbing trees is awesome.

i really dont

fair enough so i take it our conversation is over. my intentions were not to insult you, i dont think calling someone a noob backwards is really that insulting.

but if i really offended you irl i apologize for doing that. thats all im going to say on this issue

Your friend= you.

Sure you can believe that but it's not really true.
Grown adults cheat and divorce each other all the time.
The divorce rate is over 50% of all marriages in the U.S. And I bet all of those couples claimed to have "loved" each other. Love comes and goes as it pleases.

I had a 2 year relationship when I was 16 and had 3 one month relationships when I was 18. So really age doesn't matter. Maturity helps with relationships as you get older but can't really predict when you'll actually start loving someone for real.

Aren't you just superior to us all.

thx for feeling that way :\

If he keeps pushing it when she obviously doesn't seem interested could potentially ruin the friendship completely. He could probably just find answers on wikihow >_<