Hey guys!

I'm sure you're rolling your eyes as I create another thread about my love life - my second thus far. The reason for this is because I like someone in some of my classes and I want to be better friends with her (perhaps move into a relationship as well). One problem thay I have right away is that I'm really shy, and I've only really talked to her when I'm talked to. I have nothing on my mind as a conversation starter, and sometimes it gets awkwardly silent.

We talk in our classes together, but that's pretty much it - no talking out of class. I also have reason to believe she likes me, because she drew a heart on my hand a few days ago and other flirty gestures. I'm not sure how to interpret this, as I haven't dated very many girls.  

Exactly what part of this girl do you like about her?  

Posted by Zazzi*

Exactly what part of this girl do you like about her?

We have similar interests, she's very kind (volunteers at various animal shelters), has similar political views, is smart and takes an interst in learning as I do, and many other things.  

i'm a shy guy too, there is no shame in it, what i do is i use text them and slowly build up my confidence, because once you know someone better you can talk to them more openly.

for conversation starters talk about general things that may be similar in the both of your lives.  

Posted by Myst

i'm a shy guy too, there is no shame in it, what i do is i use text them and slowly build up my confidence, because once you know someone better you can talk to them more openly.

for conversation starters talk about general things that may be similar in the both of your lives.

I'm exactly the same way and agree with Myst on this. Once you first meet a person, it can be hard to talk to them especially if your shy. But what I suggest is that you build your confidence up high enough so that you can talk to her and as Myst said, once you talk to her more and more, you will feel more comfortable and less shy. Just do any topics. Ask her whats are her favorite things to do. Just keep talking with her every day and I'm sure you will be alright. Build that confidence!  

Tbh I still never loved anybody but you should randomly bump into her or something and show the inner you. Make her laugh , tell her funny things and she may say them back. Keep doing it until something.......different happens between you and her.

PS: This may sound like I'm exp but I never
Loved anybody and nobody loved me  

Posted by The Doctor

We have similar interests, she's very kind (volunteers at various animal shelters), has similar political views, is smart and takes an interst in learning as I do, and many other things.

That is your key to conversation starters, approach her act casual you are there to know her and learn more about her. Use the interests you both have and keep talking to her about it. Yes, you are shy and might find it hard to talk to her face to face. I was there once, unable to do anything but admire someone I really liked. I broke out of that. I believe you have the will to break yourself out of that state and enjoy your own confidence. Even a small act of saying hello and how are you in the halls or even in class is progress. The more you build up the relationship between you two the better it is to speak more comfortably about more than how she was feeling today. It's all on you to do what is needed and none of us here can do it for you. Don't just text here from afar get closer.  

I can't really give you much advise since I've had very little experience with love in my life. Try to be funny though and get her to laugh. That helps break the ice a little more.  

Use those shared interests to your advantage.  

Im a really shy person too. Heres the basics,

Build a relation with her, learn what she likes, once you feel ready if you're trying to avoid the friend zone then go up to her, tell her how you feel and ask her out to something she likes doing and you can tolerate (winner everytime is wanna go to the mall or anything to do with food, bonus points if you cook it yourself).
Chicks like their men confident.  

Suck it up, buttercup.  

Thanks for the advice, everyone!  

If you have her number, make texting her a nightly/daily thing. The key to starting a relationship is to interact with the person on a very regular basis, show them you're a good person to spend a lot of time with, because if you want to head into a romantic relationship, you'll both have to get used it.

Alternatively, if that doesn't work, show her your spar record.  

If you already talk to her in class and think she has an interest in you then you are off to a good start already. Just start off by saying hello to her if you happen to walk by her outside of class. You don't have to say anything else since you are walking past but it could lead to her asking you something, so that you don't have to be the conversation starter if you aren't good at it. Then you can ask her similar questions she asks you so you know each other better.
Then if you haven't already add her on facebook, just talk to her every now and then on that, easier to do in person so that you further establish her interests. That will lead to you becoming more confident talking to her in person and then you can step it up by inviting her out to the movies or something. It doesn't have to be just you two, you could start off by inviting a group and include her and some of her friends, and lead it into you guys going just together.
The rest pretty much sorts itself out so goodluck  

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